Talking Tips- parent to daughter

As a parent, you understand the value of coaching and you have taken the first step towards helping your daughter thrive amidst the challenges of adolescence.  You know that coaching will provide her with a safe outlet where she can express her feelings honestly and receive tangible tools and strategies that will enable her to handle challenges and rebound from adversity.  However, there is no guarantee that your daughter will immediately recognize the value of coaching. In fact, more often than not, you will face resistance.

Here are some useful tips for talking to your daughter about coaching:

  1. Use your own adolescent experience: “When I was your age, I didn’t want to share everything with my parents. I wish I had someone in my life who understood me and who I could talk to about some of the hard stuff I was dealing with. I didn’t have that opportunity and I want to make sure you do.”
  2. Be enthusiastic about coaching: “I met a really cool woman who is all about supporting girls to live happier, more amazing lives. I think you will like her.”
  3. Ask open-ended questions: “How are things going for you?”
  4. Remind her that she is not making a life-long commitment.  Emphasize that she will have a say in whether or not coaching (or the coach) is a good fit.
  5. Consider your timing.  She is more likely to resist the idea of coaching when she is in a crisis.  Choose a time when she is relaxed, open, and calm.
  6.  Assure her that coaching is not a punishment.  Instead, it is an opportunity to have a safe space to vent, build on her strengths, and receive tools that she can apply to everyday problems.
  7. Emphasize the fact that asking for help is an act of strength.  Coaching will help her grow stronger and take action to reach her potential.
  8. Find your own humility. Admit that coaching is a support for you as much as it is for her.